Balance and the power of values.
I did a job yesterday, that I have been putting off for weeks.
For 9 hrs I plugged away, trying to remove the tiles and plaster away from their porous host. I started off by focusing on about 16 tiles that I wanted to remove, my rooms an odd shape so these 16 would have cleared a part of the room. I invested in an SDS drill with tile lifter chisel, I had previously removed the tiles with hammer and bolster, but there’s only so long you can go before your grip and strength goes, the plaster underneath was a real sod too, it took three times as long to remove the plaster compared to a tile.
Things are a bit tight now, so didn’t want to splash out on the drill.
Previously I had spent three days, hammering away with my bolster, a total of 12 hrs, not wasted but not 12 effective hours either. I bit the bullet and put it on my credit card, the right tool for the job makes a hell of a difference, I slipstreamed the job. Every moment I spent on the tool I felt I was making amazing progress.
Sometimes you must invest, in things which can save time/slipstream or advance you further than you would have been plugging away with your own hand tools.
2017 has been the year that I have invested the most in myself, Masterminds, trainings, all moving me closer to my goal. There are more trainings forecast for next year, Counselling, ACT, Quality, Lean Six Sigma, and one I would like to put on there is writing. I want to be able to write effectively so people can hear and see my message.
I believe I have something to offer the world, a desire to help others,
What that looks like is still formulating within me, All I know is that it’s coming from a place of sincerity.
Without that investment where would I, be?
Still frustrated! Still angry! Still pissed off but not knowing why. This year I feel I have grown, emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Within Reiki, there are 7 aspects which surround your body,
All need to be fed and honoured,
In the material world the ones which affect us the most are ones I mentioned above. All this is work in progress, there are many things I could be better at. Yet I find myself not focusing on what I could be better at, I constantly reflect on situations and events, I ask myself if they went as I had wished, if yes then great, if no then what could I have done to get the result I wanted.
All the while trying to act from a place of compassion, authenticity and integrity. I read my values every day when I wake, I feel it helps me to align with how I want to be in the world. I found the task of defining you values difficult at first, there were so many to pick from, and many which meant a similar thing.
The best method I have seen is to give yourself 3 mins, start circling those that you really feel you want to stand for. You’re looking for about 12 values for this stage, though you could have as many as you want.
Then write them down in the any order,
And ask yourself is it a definite?
If it is, it stays, if not compare it to the one below, which would you keep?
Eventually you should have around 6 values,
Write them somewhere you will see them every day.
When you interact with people, ask yourself did you espouse the values you hold dear,
For example, if you have love or compassion,
Do you find yourself gossiping or poking fun at people?
If you do, you might want to look at the behaviour.
For your body to be aligned and balanced you need to be living the ideals you have just laid out for yourself. You need to be congruent and being congruent isn’t always easy. There will be slips, there will be times you say or do something which conflicts with those values, remember:
YOU ARE HUMAN.
The best thing to do is recognise the mistake and correct going forward.
Finding my values, was one of the biggest, game changers for me. By being aware of how I am, I am holding myself to higher expectations. It brings clarity on how and when to act, being able to respond in a way that is in alignment with who you are, and what you stand for can bring peace to the anger and frustration.
The two that guide me daily are.
1. Always do the right thing.
2. Treat others as you wish to be treated.
Please try it out and let me know how you get on, or if you feel you can add to this reach out and tell me.
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